By all accounts and purposes I had a wonderful life. I had a wife and three children, a beautiful house, and a few yearly vacations to look forward to. But, I was so caught up trying to be something I wasn’t and living up to everyone’s expectations of me. I had not yet met my authentic self. I didn’t even realize that happiness was an option.
Unfortunately, my health was the first thing to go. I had Crohn’s disease and ulcers — both linked to stress and causing debilitating symptoms. By the time I was 50, in what was supposed to be the height of my career, I was in and out of the hospital awaiting my first Crohn’s surgery. And, while it might sound cliché, as I lay there in the hospital (with my middle son down the hall also undergoing his own gastro intestinal surgery for ulcerative colitis) I realized that something was not right and I could no longer go on living the way I had been. There had to be more to life than this.
More than 15 years later, I’m happier than I’ve ever been, my relationships are stronger and more genuine, I make my health and well-being my priority, and I have let go of much of the fears and guilt that held me back most of my life. I have connected with my spirituality and found true joy in helping others on their own journeys. I am exactly where I’m supposed to be. And I’m here to tell you that significant and meaningful change is completely possible and within your reach — no matter what you’re going through. All it takes is the desire to begin and that one first step.